Sometimes having nothing seems worse than finally having a private moment with someone you love and then babbling uncontrollably like some nightmare where you don’t just can’t stop. But with a bit of patience and self-control, you can quickly stop yourself from chattering like crazy.
Practising specific calming techniques before you see them can help calm your nerves. Taking the initiative and getting close to them will help you overcome the next hurdle. Finally, paying attention to your body while you speak will help you stay in control and project your confidence.
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Calm down before you see them
When you see your crush, and you start to feel excited and nervous, focus on your breathing. Remember that your lungs receive less oxygen when you take short, rapid breaths, causing your heart to race and your body to stiffen. Deep, long breaths to calm the body and mind.
Be confident in your appearance.
Don’t worry about the minor imperfections you want to get rid of. Also, don’t worry about trying to turn yourself into a specific “type” that you think your crush might like. Dress how you want to dress. Style your hair as you see fit. Be yourself and own it!
Of course, people are attracted to particular looks. But it’s been shown that people are likely to react much more quickly to your level of confidence than to your appearance.
So if you’re a brunette or redhead worried that your crush looks like she’s dating blondes, stop worrying! The moment you act confident in your appearance, they will be more flabbergasted by your self-confidence than your hair colour.
Be bold.
When you see your crush, come up and start a conversation. Show them how confident and authentic you are by going straight instead of out of the way. Please don’t give yourself time to overthink and become anxious (or give someone else a chance to step in and steal their attention). Take a walk and start with something casual. Try:
Ask a question about something you share in common, like a class: “Hey, you know which pages Mr Kingsley asked us to read tomorrow?
Make them speak for themselves.
Once you’ve drawn them into the conversation, keep the spotlight on them in the beginning, to push them further away. Imagine yourself as an interviewer and ask lots of follow-up questions. It will flatter their ego by showing that you are interested in what they are thinking and give you a chance to feel more comfortable with them before the spotlight shines on you.
Ask them if they have read any of these books by this author. If they do, which would they recommend reading first? Suppose the book they recommend has been made into a movie. Ask them which one they liked the most and why.
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Please don’t make her think it’s a police interview. Make the conversation equal, give and take as it goes. Let’s say you’re still talking about their favourite director and movies. If one of their favourite movies is also one of yours, tell them and tell them why you love it.
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